A Critique Of Comparison

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She has what?  She teaches how? They live where? Her kids play when?  Comparing our homeschool with someone else’s homeschool is risky. Growing up, my siblings and I would try to convince our parents to let us do something.  We would use the comparison tactic, “But, she is allowed to do it”.  My parents always told us something like, “If they jumped off the roof, would you do it?”  This type of comparison did no good to anyone, but we knew we wouldn’t get our way. When we grow up, we still fall into the comparison trap.  We compare our “things” with other’s things.  It does us no good, but it’s hard not to compare our life with someone else.  We suspect that the grass is really greener on the other side of the fence. Because homeschooling becomes our life, we sometimes, innocently, compare our homeschool to another family.  We need to be careful that this doesn’t become a problem for us, and thus, become a potential problem for our family. Before social media, the comparisons weren’t so open.  Maybe when we saw other homeschool families at church or an event, we would compare our situation with theirs.  I’ve noticed now, that social media and online groups have produced a huge avenue for comparisons. Most online groups and forums that I’ve visited were thriving because of the comparison problem.  Instead of homeschool moms discussing, researching, and making decisions with their husbands, they instead got advice from strangers online.  There is nothing wrong with getting advice (from a multitude of counselors), but so many discussions online turn into a comparison-fest. Many times, the advice I see given online is not sound.  People online tend to have less inhibitions, and write down the first thing that pops into their heads.  Emotional reactions, anger, jealousy, and other emotions don’t bring about a logical solution to issues that homeschool moms face. And worse than just comparisons, you’ll often see mom-shaming or homeschool mom-shaming.  This is a terrible thing for everyone involved.  We know little of another person’s situation, and should be very careful about advice that we blindly offer.  As Christians, our advice should come from a Biblical perspective. Human reasoning is so often seen on these forums.  The world view that is so common is human focused.  I’ve also been guilty of comments that point the person to self-help.  Saying things like, “you can do this!” or “take control and get it done”.  These can be innocent, or can be seen as saying to live and strive to do things “in the flesh” vs. doing things God’s way. It doesn’t matter if someone has a homestead and raises all their food or if someone has their 13 year old in college studying engineering.  We all have been blessed with our own family.  We don’t need to try to copy a way of life or homeschool that isn’t right for us.  All of us are different and have different needs, gifts, ideas, and goals. When husband and wife seek God it’s easier to trust our plan and goals for our homeschool family.  We no longer feel the need to get advice from strangers or try to follow a plan that isn’t ours. @2018, copyright Lisa Ehrman

8 Non-Sport Activities For Homeschool Kids

Disclosure: Affiliate link included. Extra-curricular activity choices for homeschool kids are increasing all the time.  When I began homeschooling, living in a small town, there were very few group activities to join.  Now, you don’t have to live in a big city to be overwhelmed with choices for your kids. Since sports for homeschoolers are well-known and promoted, I’m going to focus on non-athletic activities.  I’m certainly not against playing sports, and my children played most of them.  But, I would like to point out some other fun and educational opportunities. 1. Music     Music includes: Singing, Choir, Band, Orchestra, Private Lessons, Group Lessons     Music training/education is proven to benefit children in many ways, including intelligence.  I’m      partial to music, because my first degree is in music.  At various times, my children enjoyed every     one of these categories. 2. Drama     Drama can include: Co-Op Drama groups, Community theater classes and productions, and more      advanced training/acting.  My child enjoyed acting in a local Co-Op play.  It turned out to be a very     positive experience and she made many new friends. 3. Art     Art can include: Art classes, Arts and Crafts groups/classes, Community Art classes, and private     study.  You might find classes in your Park & Rec. department, Fine Arts organizations, Summer      Camps, Art Gallery classes/exhibits, and Private Pottery stores. 4. Cook     Cooking is a wonderful skill that is important for children to learn.  Many times, Co-Ops will have     a cooking class or group.  Cooking clubs or classes can be found at your local Park and Rec. and      online.  You could even start one for your homeschool group. 5. Sew     Sewing can include: Basic-Advanced sewing, knitting, and other creative pursuits.       Sewing is a skill that isn’t used as much as it was in the past.  Fabric stores, quilting stores, and      private teachers offer sewing lessons.   6. Photography Photography is a fun and creative activity.  Photography classes can sometimes be found at your local Park and Rec. Dept. Private photography classes can be found through Art foundations or with private instructors. 7. Dance     Dance can include any style of dance instruction.  Many children study: ballet, tap, jazz, modern,     Irish Step, country, ballroom, and others.  My child took dance lessons for many years.  Her      favorites were ballet and Irish Step.  This is a very physical activity and provides many physical     benefits.  It also helps with creativity, good behavior, and self-esteem.  8. Clubs     Clubs can include: Book clubs, Debate, Chess, 4H, Scouts, Nature, Religious, Academic teams,     and Service clubs.  My children participated in: book, debate, chess, and religious clubs.  Religious     clubs, such as Awana, offered wonderful chances to memorize Scripture.  Chess clubs made      playing chess fun and competitive.  Book clubs offered great social experiences as well as      improvement in their reading comprehension abilities.  Debate club provided a huge boost in     academic preparation for college, working in groups, competition and social fun.  The focus     on research and presentations really helped the child be ready for college classes. I love all of these ideas and you may have some awesome ones that worked great in your homeschool family.  What were your favorites?  If you live in an area that doesn’t offer an activity that your child is interested in, create it yourself.  Many homeschool parents create a group, because it will be helpful to their child.  It’s easy to do that, too.  Advertise it through your local groups and have a blast! Here are some of our family’s favorite Homeschool Resources! @2018, copyright Lisa Ehrman

50 Reasons Homeschoolers Love The Library

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Disclosure: Affiliate link included A universal problem for homeschoolers is the shortage of home book shelves.  Another problem we all face is budgeting for all the books we want to purchase.  The solution can be found at your public library. Like you, I love the library!  Homeschoolers spend time there for many reasons.  I’ve found 50 great reasons you should spend time in your local library.  What is your favorite library feature? 1. Check out books 2. Find discounts or free passes for local museums 3. Check out microscope 4. Check out Toy Kits 5. Story times 6. STEAM or STEM classes 7. Book clubs – age or genre divisions 8. Film series 9. Good place for older children to volunteer 10. Meeting rooms to use 11. Check out Nature Kits 12. Used-Book Sales 13. Check out Music 14. Check out Videos 15. Check out Audio Books 16. Resource Books 17. Moms can read books on “How to Homeschool” or research educational topics 18. Check out Computer games 19. MANGO foreign language 20. Musical performances 21. Dramas 22. Cliff Notes 23. E Books 24. Inter-Library Loan 25. Place Books on hold 26. Check out cameras 27. Bulletin Boards: find information about local plays, art, music, book signings, lectures, tutors,       testing information, co-op group info 28. Computer classes 29. Test Prep books or classes 30. Summer Reading Program 31. Playroom or Play Area for little ones 32. Free WiFi 33. Arts and Crafts Classes 34. Chess club 35. Career Day 36. Sign Language classes 37. Magazines/Journals 38. Maps 39. Elementary Database 40. Check out Curriculum 41.Check out Money Kit 42. Little Pim foreign language 43. Newspapers for current event reports and more 44. Classes: taxes, finance, budgeting, etc 45. Photography Classes 46. Writing workshops 47. Print/Copy 48. 3-D Printer 49. Classes: Genealogy 50. Check out iPads or other tablets Here are some Homeschooling favorites! @2018, copyright Lisa Ehrman

Financial Consequences Of Homeschooling

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Disclosure: Affiliate link included. Homeschooling is great!  If I had to do it over again, I would.  But, there is something that is never discussed at Homeschool Seminars or in books.  The financial situation of a family is an important issue to consider when you decide to homeschool. As we decided to homeschool, we were a young family with a comfortable income.  We felt that we really should homeschool our children, based on a number of factors.  But, I feel we were naive in our ideas about future finances.  It’s easy to say that everything will turn out fine.  We said that we would make the sacrifice to homeschool, by keeping Mom at home. With a regular paycheck and good insurance it was easier to feel secure financially.  Though we did make sacrifices, such as: less money for vacations, nicer clothes, better and safer cars, etc., we still were being naive. For us, the realization was much more harsh, when my husband retired.  Although we had retirement funds saved, we didn’t foresee many problems.  We didn’t plan on my health becoming horrible and all the bills that would bring.  We didn’t plan on insurance becoming a huge expense (with higher premiums and bills on the horizon). Yes, we trust God and always have.  God has never left us and never will.  But, I think it’s important to be honest and plan carefully for the future.  When the homeschool years are over, what will happen to you financially?  While you are young, try to look ahead and ask yourselves these questions. Even though we were savers, we probably would have saved even more.  Hindsight is truly 20/20, so I know we can’t prepare for everything.  I would like you and your family to carefully look at the future, because it will get here much faster than you expect. Here are some of my family’s favorite homeschool resources! @2018, copyright Lisa Ehrman

Win, Lose, And Grow

Disclosure: Affiliate link included. Do you remember this commercial? Passiton.com When this commercial came out a few years ago, I was touched by it’s message.  The young child is pushed by his mom to explore activities to enjoy.  He tries quite a few sports, but even with all the right gear and lots of encouragement; he fails. But, mom never gives up.  She wants him to succeed and wants him to have fulfillment and fun.  She doesn’t know what will inspire him or be the “right fit” for him, so she tries everything she can think of.  Does it harm him to fail? Failing isn’t harmful.  It could be, if we give up.  But, this mom encourages him to continue his search and his exploration.  And, he finally succeeds at what he discovers! This speaks to me so much as a homeschool mom.  With my children, they were each encouraged to try many things.  We provided all the necessary equipment and training.  We wanted them to try and explore many activities and see what they were fit to do.  It was always surprising to see what they loved doing and were good at. Homeschool moms do this with our children’s extracurricular activities as well as their curriculum and learning opportunities.  We take them to sports, chess clubs, dance lessons, debate clubs, and much more.  Children will find what they love and are good at doing. Sometimes, children love to do a certain thing, but they’re not especially good at it.  That’s fine.  In fact, I believe that it’s good for them to participate in something in which they may fail or not be the best.  Just participating in an activity will teach your children so many things.  Their character will grow stronger as they learn to deal with competition.  No one wins every time. I always felt like children shouldn’t be allowed to quit, just because they weren’t “no 1”.  As they win or lose, the parents have a great opportunity to teach them through these times.  This is when they really grow.  Don’t prevent them from being in these types of growing experiences. @2018, copyright Lisa Ehrman

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